Saturday, October 12, 2013

Please Don't Turn Me Into a Story

There is one thing I hated so much while I was trying to get pregnant- stories. Every time I heard someone tell me about their cousin's best friend's sister who had three failed IVFs, but then when they decided to adopt, she got pregnant because she relaxed, I wanted to scream.

Please don't turn me into one of those stories. I know my situation is very happy and exciting, but it definitely will not happen to most women and is very rare. I just think of how those stories were very unhelpful and, sometimes, hurtful. I don't want my story to do that to someone. I don't want them to hear my story and then be told, "So, that'll work for you, too! You just need to take a break." When people think that's all infertiles need to do, they minimize the effort and pain that those ladies go through to try to have a baby.

So, please, don't share my story of getting pregnant on a break month before IVF as one that can and should happen to everyone. I wish it would, but in reality, it won't be this easy for most.


Schutzenegger said...

That's one of the reasons why I don't like the Ensign (except for the May/November issues). It's all success stories and it carries the feel of "just try harder and YOU could be in the Ensign!"

Rachel Helps said...

I think your story could be constructive, if told accurately. Like: "they were trying IVF, but it didn't solve her biggest problem which was probably duct obstruction." XD Maybe that's not the most entertaining story but the devil is in the details, you know?

Drew said...

I would totally tell your story!!! Because it's actually a great story! And a total success! I probably wouldn't use many details, but I know when we were having trouble I found stories to be interesting and sometimes comforting.